Purification and Unifying

As the cancer in Rich's body became more invasive and agressive, our life together went through purification and unification. Both of us had issues with selfishness that surfaced. As we dealt with those issues, purifying took place. Although the outward appearance deteriorated, our inward man was being strengthened. Rich would comment to people that, because of the changes being wrought in his thinking and attitudes, having cancer had been  beneficial to him.

Part of our daily routine at one point was to go for walks in a little park near us. Few people used the park in the early morning hours so we often had it to ourselves. We would walk along the path, quoting scriptures and singing songs. What wonderful times those were! Listening to Charles Spurgeon sermons being read on the internet also highlighted our days. Spurgeon's confidence in a loving, merciful heavenly Father greatly influenced us and gave us new insight into our Father's character.

Just six months before Rich submitted to an examination which resulted in the diagnosis of cancer, our marriage went through a time of purifying. September of 1997 became a turning point. We sought to become more open and loving with each other, which brought a new dimension of intimacy in communication. For us, it was like being newlyweds again, only with more wisdom and understanding.  That time prepared us for the tests ahead when our love would be challenged as never beflore.

Trials are never easy, nor are they sought out as desirable; but looking back, on the other side of the trial, positive changes are seen and appreciated.